Cheating or scandal has been extensively studied over the past two decades.
Basically, when there is cheating, two explanations can be associated:
1.The first explanation is probably the most famous: Spouse cheating as a problem in their relationship - something that is lost, the spirit that has faded, the couple feel lonely, have found someone who treats them better, or who value them more than their current partner, etc. .
In other words, the claim that they are unhappy in their relationship so that they look for love elsewhere.
2.The second is a more detailed explanation of the nature. This explanation ignores the reasons that people cheat and look deep into human nature.
The second explanation explore what it means to be human and ask, "why loyal to the couple so difficult for people to do?"
Perhaps the best way to think about these two explanations is to see them as two sides of the same coin.
One explanation to see what people say is not faithful and unfaithful, while other explanations see "how and why cheating" occurred.
Together, the two explanations given us a more complete picture about the cheating, love and romance
Sunday, July 15, 2012
Sign of cheating (Catch spouse cheating)
I feel like be cheated by spouse.How will I know if my spouse, boyfriend or girlfriend cheating on me?
It is difficult to know whether the spouse is cheating or not.
Understood, most people do not know how to investigate the spouse.
But, if you want to catch a liar, and it often helps to understand the nature of the problem at hand.
Why is it so difficult to catch a cheating husband or wife?
Catch cheating partner is difficult because the fraudsters have an unfair advantage when it comes to fraudster. In fact, most fraudster go undetected, or proven, because the game rules tend to favor those who cheat.
Most people have a strong desire to believe what the couple said. Believing a partner to create a sense of security and comfort. Nobody really wants to think that the spouse can cheat, especially when he or she became fraudster.
Despite knowing the truth, we are usually more willing to consider it a good a lie knowing it was a terrible fraud
In fact, some people are willing to let the cheating spouse, because admitting the truth is too painful. This helps explain why couples often do not know: Because knowing always causes pain couples.
And cheating spouses take this opportunity. Fraudsters often exploit their partner's desire to tell their partners believe what they want to hear that I do not deceive you.
Cheating spouses not only exploit their partner's desire to believe, but there are some signs indicate that they cheat.
The signal from the fraudster different from the situation to the situation, and of lasting; make it impossible to provide a list of useful behavior with a high degree of accuracy. Although in hindsight, the warning signs are ALWAYS clear.
In fact, there are so many "signs" the list of dishonest signal where it is difficult to be accepted.
SIGN OF DISHONEST:
First, such behavior can couple to a variety of responses. Does a sudden keen to reduce weight? Or it may be due to some other cause?
Explanation for the conduct of any clear because we never want to believe.
Additionally, look for signs of cheating tend to suspicion. For example, if your spouse or clear the call log after each call? Dwelling on any matter that tends to make people more anxious and suspicious. And how people generally deal with their mistrust ending help couples cheat.
Suspicion is a very strong emotional and difficult to conceal. Suspicious individuals tend to signal their doubts by making accusations, acting insecure and worried, because too want to know, and so forth.
And fear the worst pair of fraud arrested. So, cheating spouses continue to monitor their peers signs of anxiety. And if the cheating spouse detects suspicion, he / she will adjust behavior / to better hide and conceal things.
Only speaking, the suspicion of cheating liars tend to help more effectively. If your spouse cheating, and you indicate your doubts and suspicion, it will be more difficult to find the truth.
When you put all together, the fraudster has the advantage: Both, trust and suspicion, tend to work in their favor.
If you suspect cheating, do not deal with your partner so you have proof.
And while it helps to talk with many of the couples relationship problem, this is NOT the case when it comes to infidelity. Cheating spouse almost never admit to infidelity, unless presented with evidence to the contrary.
Even when confronted with the evidence, some of the spouses continue to lie.
It is difficult to know whether the spouse is cheating or not.
Understood, most people do not know how to investigate the spouse.
But, if you want to catch a liar, and it often helps to understand the nature of the problem at hand.
Why is it so difficult to catch a cheating husband or wife?
Catch cheating partner is difficult because the fraudsters have an unfair advantage when it comes to fraudster. In fact, most fraudster go undetected, or proven, because the game rules tend to favor those who cheat.
Most people have a strong desire to believe what the couple said. Believing a partner to create a sense of security and comfort. Nobody really wants to think that the spouse can cheat, especially when he or she became fraudster.
Despite knowing the truth, we are usually more willing to consider it a good a lie knowing it was a terrible fraud
In fact, some people are willing to let the cheating spouse, because admitting the truth is too painful. This helps explain why couples often do not know: Because knowing always causes pain couples.
And cheating spouses take this opportunity. Fraudsters often exploit their partner's desire to tell their partners believe what they want to hear that I do not deceive you.
Cheating spouses not only exploit their partner's desire to believe, but there are some signs indicate that they cheat.
The signal from the fraudster different from the situation to the situation, and of lasting; make it impossible to provide a list of useful behavior with a high degree of accuracy. Although in hindsight, the warning signs are ALWAYS clear.
In fact, there are so many "signs" the list of dishonest signal where it is difficult to be accepted.
SIGN OF DISHONEST:
First, such behavior can couple to a variety of responses. Does a sudden keen to reduce weight? Or it may be due to some other cause?
Explanation for the conduct of any clear because we never want to believe.
Additionally, look for signs of cheating tend to suspicion. For example, if your spouse or clear the call log after each call? Dwelling on any matter that tends to make people more anxious and suspicious. And how people generally deal with their mistrust ending help couples cheat.
Suspicion is a very strong emotional and difficult to conceal. Suspicious individuals tend to signal their doubts by making accusations, acting insecure and worried, because too want to know, and so forth.
And fear the worst pair of fraud arrested. So, cheating spouses continue to monitor their peers signs of anxiety. And if the cheating spouse detects suspicion, he / she will adjust behavior / to better hide and conceal things.
Only speaking, the suspicion of cheating liars tend to help more effectively. If your spouse cheating, and you indicate your doubts and suspicion, it will be more difficult to find the truth.
When you put all together, the fraudster has the advantage: Both, trust and suspicion, tend to work in their favor.
If you suspect cheating, do not deal with your partner so you have proof.
And while it helps to talk with many of the couples relationship problem, this is NOT the case when it comes to infidelity. Cheating spouse almost never admit to infidelity, unless presented with evidence to the contrary.
Even when confronted with the evidence, some of the spouses continue to lie.
Wednesday, July 11, 2012
TIPS TO AVOID DECEPTION FROM CHEATING SPOUSE
Despite the intimacy you and your partner, the most deceptive in the fraud did not get to find as suspicious spouse is good for questioning spouse (for example, where? Are you with? Etc.).
In most cases, fraud and dishonesty be exposed with not deliberately (see, Park, Levine, McCornack, Morrison and Ferrara). A husband or wife decides to go home from work early, a third party inadvertently reveal the truth, unpaid parking tickets to disclose whereabouts of the true pair, exchange e-mail inadvertently sent to the wrong person, and so forth.
Supervision, and also to compare is an attempt to find truth by monitoring the behavior of couples. If you are dealing with fraud and cheating spouses, several types of monitoring are nearly always required.
While monitoring the partner is often the most effective way to find what is happening in the relationship, spying spouse can also cause problems. Is it ethical to monitor the husband or wife without or knowledge
conversely, if you are dealing with a cheating spouse, how you deal with this problem that the truth be found? Fix the problem requires a proper calculation and also with the issues involved.
Tips to avoid you from deception of your spouse:
Keeping a journal of activities your partner. Write down the time, date, place, other people involved, the reasons given, and so forth. Your journal will be invaluable because you can compare what related to phone bills, credit card statements, ATM withdrawals, in connection with other people, etc.. A cheating spouse is likely to change, or a story or to question your memory, so keep a record of all is critical.r calculation and also with the issues involved
Trace all incoming phone calls. Recording time and number of all calls.
Plan a surprise visit to work, or come home at unexpected times, or make an announcement on to work late, but then come home early, etc..
Track the mileage of the vehicle your spouse, your spouse receipts, credit card statements, ATM withdrawals, telephone records, etc..
If you can, check the call log the number of your spouse.Find unusual phone calls. Keep in mind that cheating spouses often store their lover's phone number under the name of other people: friends, colleagues, etc.
You can also buy surveillance equipment (hidden camera and voice recorder is activated) or download monitoring software (keylogger), which will make it easier for you to monitor the activities of your partner. Using equipment may, however, can cause a number of legal issues
Never deal with your partner until you are sure that you have enough evidence to make your case. And never reveal all your evidence at once. Many cheating spouses will try to fabricate a story to fit the evidence. But, if you withhold some evidence first, and let your partner create a story, it gives you the opportunity to use the remaining evidence as leverage. And strategically withhold evidence, your spouse will start to question exactly how much you know, increasing the likelihood that he will tell you the truth.
Overall, if you find anything suspicious, do not deal with your partner until you are sure that you have enough evidence to obtain a confession.
And, again, think in advance about how your partner may try to reject your allegation (for example, we are only joking, I just flirting, it was a misunderstanding, we are only friends, nothing happened, and so on). If you can predict how your partner may be to respond, you can try to collect the evidence you need to counter what he said.
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